Iam No Longer The Person I Used To Be

The most Important Reason Why You Should Constructively, and Objectively Dig Into Each Others Past love relationships, is because in any relationship experience, our emotions, our mind, our perceptions, our goals, always change.
The change is occasioned by the distances we walk spiritually, psychologically, Emotionally, and physical, from who we are as individuals in order to adapt to another individual world,who we later share our lives with.

When the relationship breaks it does not leave us who we used to be, because we would have travelled long distance, to be where we are when the relationship is breaking.
Consequently, by the time you are meeting him/her, after the break up or separation or divorce, they are usually not the same lady or man they used to be.A lot of spiritual, emotional and psychological changes would have taken place.
Before you meet them earlier own this lady or the man believed in love, believed in trust, believed in men or women. Their perspective about either gender was untainted, it was purely positive.
Following the break up, their confidence has been eroded, their trust has been abused, their hopes have been shattered, and their perception of men and women has been corrupted by the experience they have gone through in the just crushed relationship.
So traveling back with them to their past gives you the benefit of relating with the real person who they were as opposed to whom they have become. With the reality who the real person was or is, you can now build a friendship that can lead to marriage, or decide its a friendship that has no marriage as a future prospect.

Therefore do not shy away from sharing about your past to him or her, after all everyone has a past n we are products of our past whether we appreciate it or not.


Connecting With You.

You Are Definitely A Wonder, And A Mystery At The Same Time! The most important person in the relationship is you, because without you the relationship would not be in existence after all. The First Thing You Need To Do Is To Know Who You Real Are, because You Are Better Off Giving The Person You Know, Than Giving An Allien.

First Discover Your Origin! You Are God’s Image And Likeness!.When God  Sanctioned Your Making In Your Mothers Womb, He Figured Out You To Be A Spirit Like He Is, Have A Soul (Seat Of Emotions, Will And The Mind), And Have A Body To Be Able To Adapt To Life On Earth.

Who You Are Is A Mystery To You And Me, But Its Plain To The Person Who Created You. God Knows You, And Knows About You, Just Like Mr Sonny Of Sonny Electronics Knows His Sony Products, And Everything About Them Is Plain To Him.

Connecting With You, Will Be Accomplished Through Establishing A Relationship With The Person Who Made You And Sanctioned Your Assemble In Your Mothers Womb. You Need A Relationship With God, So That He Can Lead You Into Discovering Who You Real Are.

When You Bought That Television Set, It Came With A Manual, Giving You An Opportunity To Interact With The Mind Of The Creator Behind The Television Set. This Would Make You Get The Best Use And Performance From The Television Set, Without Compromising The Real Worth And Value..In Simple Terms With Knowledge Of The Television Set, Capability,Functionality, Its Limits, You Will In turn Get Value For Your Money.

Like Wise Your Relationship With God Will Lead You Into An All Time Discovery Of Who You Are Spiritually, Emotionally, Psychologically, and Physically. You Will be Knowledgeable Of Your True Value, Capacity, Ability (Talents And Gifts), Your Limitations (Weaknesses).

With This Knowledge You Are Now Ready To Connect To Someone Who Also Have Knowledge Of Who They Real Are. Your Relationship With Thus Be Founded On Truth, And There Is No Reason Why Such A Relationship Will Not Succeed.

Woman!You Are More Than That

As A Woman You Should And Must Dig Deep Into Your Intrinsic Self, To Bring The Treasure Hidden Behind The Beautiful And Wonderful Curves On Your Bodies. This Will give you The position of strength You Need To Enter Into A Relationship For Marriage.

Unfortunately, most of you have chosen an easy but an expensive option of flaunting your beautiful curves, as a trade off for the hearts of men in exchange.

In Your Small Wisdom You Have Expected That flaunting the Curves is an Incentive Enough to rend a man’s heart to love you back. But then after the transaction has taken place, ops you realize the guy duped you, because he no longer wants you , he is no longer fond of you like before, he has totally turned into someone you never saw and interacted with before. This has left you frustrated because you get back what you never bargained for at least from your point of view of the relationship transaction. You expected love and respect from him, and all you get is disrespect, humiliation, emotional abuse, and resentment! What real went wrong? You ask!

The Reason according to me is that; you used your weak point to negotiate in the relationship. Anytime you negotiate a relationship transaction based on your weak point, i guarantee you will be taken advantage of, and most importantly the relationship will be skewed towards the man. According to God, you were designed to operate from the depth of your Personality, (emotionally, and psychologically),because thats where the genius of a woman is.

But all is not lost, because there is always hope that when a tree is cut, it will sprout again, with the right nutrients, and weather. You need now to urgently, get down to work with Jesus Christ who will lead you to discover you intrinsic personality. You will be able to locate your default setting, one of operating from the depth of your personality. With this discovered depth, i can assure you, fake men, would be repelled away, and real men would be attracted to you. This time round you will go into the negotiation table from your point of strength, and the deal you will come up with this man would one that respects your true and intrinsic worth. Once you are able to do that, i strongly believe the next time i meet you, you will be crying tears of joy, and not tears of pain.

Action” Change Tact, And Go It Original Way, Godly Way, Which Is To Dig Deep And Bring Out The Intrinsic You, On The Table Of Life And Mostly Important On The Table Of Relationships.
Case Study[John 4]
The Samaritan woman had gotten enough of terrible bargains for six men she had relationship transactions, by the time she met Jesus at the well. But after a conversation with Jesus, she was able to see her true personality, her true worth, her true depth, and she was total transformed into a different person.
The last time she was hiding from men because of the shame, but after the deep conversation with Jesus, she goes to meet the same men, and this time round from her point of strength she persuaded them to follow a man who had changed her life.